February 10, 2017

A little love

I believe Valentine’s Day should be celebrated every day. It shouldn’t be a day where you celebrate being a couple, eating chocolate and drinking vino. Instead, it should be a mindset of caring for and loving the people in your life every single day.  Part of loving the people in your life is figuring out how they need to be loved best. Gary Chapman has simplified this significantly by providing ‘The 5 Love Languages’ quiz.  The idea is that while all of us speak and understand all 5 love languages, there are usually 1 or 2 that are our main language.

Personally, I’m a big believer in knowing your love language and the language of your family and friends. Trust me – just ask any of my girlfriends who I’ve strongly encouraged to take the test. I first found out about this test in my early 20s and promptly quizzed my mom and sister so I could figure out how to love them best.  Since then, I’ve quizzed my hubby, extended family, friends, and even my kids.  So what are these 5 love languages, you ask?  Well my friend, here they are:

1. Words of affirmation: what is spoken or written means the most to these people.

2. Acts of Service: for these people, actions speak louder than words.

3. Receiving Gifts: giving and getting gifts make them feel most loved.

4. Quality Time: it’s all about undivided attention and presence.

5. Physical Touch: to this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

Sometimes you’re able to figure out people’s love languages just by reading the description provided above. You might be able to see that your hubby values quality time, or it makes your mom happy when she makes you cookies, or your best friend in the world loves to get great big hugs. Still, I’m challenging you to do it.  Grab a cup of something warm, take a few minutes, and invest in your relationships. 

I think that the best gift that you can give this Valentine’s Day is to find out your love language and those of your loved ones. Then choose to love yourself and the special people in your life in the ways that you guys need the most.  Want to take the quiz? You can do so here: ‘The 5 Love Languages Quiz‘. Once you’re done, pop back and let me know your love language in the comment section below.

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