May 11, 2014

5 things I’ve learned after becoming a mom

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1.) Being a mom is hard work. 24/7. 365. Hard work.  Celebrating the good days and bad days.  You know, those days that make you beam with pride and those days that make your heart painfully ache.  Cleaning up vomit and/or poo, listening to that horrible rattle coming from your child’s chest, soothing them back to sleep after they’ve had a bad dream.  Teaching your kids to crawl, walk, ride their bikes.  As mom’s, you’re bent over with your arms stretched out to them, ready to catch them if they fall.  It feels like we’re contorted in this position for years.  It’s a hard position to maintain for such a long period of time.   But we do it.  Sleepless nights and worrisome days, it is hard work being a mom; it’s a difficult experience to describe, but it will always be one of the most priceless experiences you will ever have.

2.) It’s ok to say that you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed out and need a break.  We don’t have to be superwoman.  Sometimes the best gift we can give our kids is a mom who takes a time out to look after herself, then comes back to the fold refreshed, bringing her mommy A game to the table.  This is something I am still learning and working on, but it’s a valuable lesson to learn.

3.) It’s healthy to let your kids know you don’t have all the answers. They need to know that you are willing to listen to their questions.  They need to understand that you will do the research till you figure out the answer(s), sometimes right along side them, and sometimes on your own. They need to know that you will try to share those answers with them in an age appropriate way that they can understand.  Most importantly, they need to know that even at your age, you are still learning.  Hopefully, this model will encourage them to continually seek answers throughout their entire lives.

4.) You don’t have to react in the moment.  Sometimes it’s best if you step away from the crayon graffiti art on your freshly painted walls, and take a moment to gain some perspective before coming back to your child to gently manage the situation.  After all, one day they’ll bring home ‘the one’ they want to spend their life with and you will tell them that story with laughter in your voice and tears of joy in your eyes.  It will have become a cherished memory in your heart, so try not to mar that moment with a harsh reaction.

5.) Silly songs, voices and dances make the difference between a good and a bad day.  ‘Mom, you’re so funny!’  I love hearing my kids say that to me.  I don’t think I’m particularly funny but I can be extremely silly.  My kids live in a house where silliness is encouraged, where they are taught that there are times in life where it’s important to be serious but there are also times to just let loose and have fun.  To me, a family that laughs together (in a healthy way), is a family that stays together.  So bring on the air guitar for mama’s rock band solo because it’s going to get pretty funky in here.

Now it’s time for you to weigh in epic readers, what lessons have you learned after becoming a mom?

 

Comments

  1. Very true. And I like that you point out that things don’t have to be perfect and that we don’t need to (and sometimes SHOULDN’T!) respond right away to stressful situations, like wall “art.” 😛

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