April 9, 2012

Bloggers Unite! One for all and all for one

Making the decision to begin blogging is both exciting and terrifying at the same time.  If it’s your first time starting a blog, the learning curve is steep, and you get a jarring introduction into writing html code, navigating social media sites and producing creative content.  We all begin blogging for different reasons, and I have a wonderful husband who keeps reminding me that I started blogging to connect with other parents, and to learn new skills while I work at being the CEO of my home.

When you start, everything is new and you feel like the deer in the proverbial headlights.  You write enthusiastically, you visit other blogs and leave them kind comments; you re-tweet others and share their Facebook posts.  But after a while, you realize that although you put yourself out there, at times it feels as though there’s tumbleweeds rolling through the home page of your own blog – it’s as quiet as an old western movie.  There are no responses to the wonderful post you just wrote, absolutely no comments, and it is frustrating and disappointing.

Beginning to blog sometimes feels like walking into a new school for the very first time.  You stand in the front hallway and say “Hi my name is Char,” (in your friendliest voice) and everyone keeps on milling around going about their business.  After a while you realize that it’s not that they don’t like you, it’s that they are just busy doing their own thing.  It is still intimidating and lonely.

In blogging, like in life, you sometimes see people in their cliques talking and laughing and just wish that someone would come up and say hi to you too.  And let’s be honest, even if you try to make friends, sometimes you are stonewalled.  They are polite but the message is clear:  they like their group dynamic just the way it is.

And then it happens.  Someone leaves a comment on your blog, then comes back again and yet again.  You comment on their blog too and before you know it you are virtual friends.  These friendships are rare but so worthwhile!

So to all you bloggers who are feeling a bit frustrated with making online connections, don’t be discouraged, keep on putting yourself out there.  Although some may make it clear that you are not welcome in their circles, there are so many more people in the blogosphere who would love to welcome you with open arms, tweets, shares, comments and follows.

I think we should adopt a new motto when it comes to blogging.  Let’s remember what it was like when we first started out, when it was hard to crack into any circles.  Let’s be welcoming to others in the blogosphere.  After all, this is a great opportunity to expand our horizons and views, to grow as people and as bloggers.  So, open your circles wide because adding more links to your social chain will only make you stronger.

Support and encourage your fellow bloggers and make your new blogging motto, “All for one and one for all!”



  1. So true. Thanks for putting this out there. I’m sure everyone has felt this way at first ( me included).

  2. Hi Char, this is a great site with a really fresh feel about it too. I landed here by chance while scanning Ezine and I’m glad I did. I think the message you’re putting out about blogging is uplifting and necessary for others that join this worthy service. I know this site is about modern mum’s, so I hope you don’t mind if this modern dad pops back every now and then for a read too!! 🙂

  3. Great post, Char. Entering into the blogosphere is daunting and overwhelming and that’s why it’s so important to be passionate about what you decide to blog about. That passion will keep you going and blogging.

    Have a wonderful holiday.

  4. Another wonderful post, Char! And your analogy is so true! Blogging is a lot like being the new kid in highschool in the beginning. Love it! xo

    • Thanks Christella! I’ve been on both sides of the fence in high school and I know I felt so much better when I reached out and supported others. I want to be that way as a blogger too!

  5. LOVE this!! So so true. 🙂 Thanks for being a voice that speaks out about how things should be done in the blogging community. This isn’t high school! We can all help each other, but first it starts with an open mind and an open heart.

    Wishing you and yours a beautiful and blessed Easter!

    • Thanks Rosann! I wrote the post and contemplated not publishing it, but I had that niggling feeling that it needed to be said and I shouldn’t keep quiet about it. Support and encouragement are good things and I experienced that recently from a wonderful blogger just out of the blue and I just knew if we were all doing that for each other, the blogosphere would be a more wonderful place to be!

      I hope you and your family have a super awesome Easter weekend girlfriend! 🙂

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